Validate Yourself.

Have you ever been told that you need to “just get over it”? How about if you’ve ever been told “that’s a dumb thing to be upset over”. Or my favorite one, and hear me out on this, is “You don’t have a right to be upset about that”. I don’t know if anyone needs to hear this as much as I personally do, but YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. Recently, I have felt like anytime I try to explain to someone a situation in my life that I am currently struggling with, I am automatically shut down for the way I feel towards MY situation. Why even ask in the first place if you are only going to respond with one of the above responses? Do people really believe that those particular sentences are good choices???

Let me back up here. I am sensitive. I know I am sensitive. I have ALWAYS been sensitive. Does this give someone the right to knock me down harder? It certainly has felt that way lately. I have been working really hard to not let things affect me on a personal level, but it’s difficult. It’s even more difficult when I have others consistently telling me to stop taking things so personally. Just because someone says that to me does not mean I am magically going to be able to do it. No one sees the constant battle going on inside my mind everyday. The battle between good and evil, wrong and right. No one hears the comments I make to myself about myself. No one understands why I am feeling the way I am feeling towards a particular instance in my life.

I am pretty sure I can speak for most humans that we ALL have inner battles we are dealing with, so why are we trying to tell someone how to feel? Why do we think that we can downsize the way someone is feeling towards a struggle they are facing? I get it…not everyone sees your personal struggle as a big deal, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t a big deal to you. Just because it may not be something you would consider painful doesn’t mean that others aren’t hurting from it.

I may be rambling all of this for my own self, but the way you feel about anything and everything is absolutely valid. Even if it’s something someone may consider small, like winning $10 on a scratch-off lottery ticket, you are allowed to be overjoyed about that win! Maybe, your ex of over a year is now seeing someone new and that really hurts you. You are allowed to feel that hurt. I think as a society we try to push other’s feelings to the ground too much, regardless of whether it’s positive or negative feelings. Now, I am not saying that we all need to be sensitive little ducklings like myself, but I am saying that it might be nice to allow others to feel the way they want without discouraging them. I realize that most people aren’t going to validate you, so I am here to remind you to validate yourself. Whatever it is you may be feeling about whatever is going on in your life, albeit happy, sad, angry, worry, etc. is perfectly acceptable because it’s your feelings. No one gets to decide how YOU feel. Validate yourself instead of looking for validation in everyone else because honey, in the end, you are you are the most important person in your life.

Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to feel validated.